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Ten Tips by Barbra A. Lewis
Ten Tips to being more truthful
By; Barbra A. Lewis
1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
Everyone should always tel the truth because it's a way of showing people that your honest, even if it's not a good truth but it's better than a lie. Committing yourself to tell the truth, is good because your seeking for good habits in life and showing people that lying won't help you in life. You may say lie then cover it with more lies which makes you forget what the first lie was, but being truthful and honest is better because the person will know that your intentions are good not bad because you lied.
"Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making some smile."
2. Tell someone about your commitment.
Telling someone your commitment is the best thing you can possibly do, why? Because your telling others that you will commit to the promise you have made because you wanna show them you won't break it which is good. Cause once you commit to something like for example telling the truth they'll see your progress on how honest your being and up front and truthful your are to them and others and it's always good involve others in your commitment.
"When you're surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible."
Before giving someone any dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason think about it before you did because the way you say or do it can show people how rude you are because of the way you answer. And answering dishonest is the exact same thing as being untruthful to a person and the more you do it the progressively it gets worse and worse and you don't know what to say anymore.
Using irony, sarcasm, or exaggeration at the wrong time is bad. Because if you're trying to be truthful to a person and you use sarcasm what makes you think they'll believe you if you meant it as a "joke" no. You also have to be careful when you say it and how your saying it. A lot of people may confuse your sarcasm for you talking the way you do.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
Before giving someone any dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason think about it before you did because the way you say or do it can show people how rude you are because of the way you answer. And answering dishonest is the exact same thing as being untruthful to a person and the more you do it the progressively it gets worse and worse and you don't know what to say anymore.
"Dishonesty of any kind will create a blemish."
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
Using irony, sarcasm, or exaggeration at the wrong time is bad. Because if you're trying to be truthful to a person and you use sarcasm what makes you think they'll believe you if you meant it as a "joke" no. You also have to be careful when you say it and how your saying it. A lot of people may confuse your sarcasm for you talking the way you do.
"Avoid sarcasm. Don't insist on the last word."
Being careful on not twisting the truth or leaving a part of it out means don't mix a truth with a lie because it will lead to a big twist in your life because you will become dishonest. And leaving a bit of truth out isn't okay either why? Because, if you need to tell the truth you will need to tell the whole truth and not leave anything out of what your saying. Be careful on what you say because at the end of the day it will affect you and the person. It will affect you by lying and not saying everything the way it happened and being truthful and it will affect the other person because if they find out the REAL truth they'll know you left a part out or twisted the truth.
"When we tell little white lies, we become progressively color-blind. It is better to remain silent than to mislead."
Silent lies is still a lie no matter the circumstances a lie won't change it's meaning if its a lie. But specifically do not know what a silent lie truly means. I think a silent lie is the same as a regular lie but instead of telling someone a lie your telling yourself a lie in way to make yourself feel better about something. You can't always lie to people but you can also lie to yourself and it can be deceiving yourself. I also assume silent lie is when a person tries to make their self-esteem boost up or their confidence goes up.
When you catch yourself lying, you need to pause what you said and say the truth instead. If you catch yourself instead of counting you can say "oh that's a lie, the truth is ..." Instead of counting the lie that you just said. Be straight forward and don't say lies because eventually you'll have to say the truth. And stopping yourself while saying a lie the honest thing you can do because your not committing to the lie.
"The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception."
Talking to yourself is always good. Because no one can understand you like you understand yourself, you may not get valuable life lessons from yourself but you can know how to be truthful to yourself. Because at the end of the day your the one who keeps having your back when no one is there and you could vent to yourself when you have something on your mind. If you told a lie and you feel bad you can always talk to yourself and try to prevent those lies slipping out of your mouth and let truth come out. It can be risky answering back to yourself but you get a better perspective on what you want to talk about. You may have friends and family members who wanna talk to you and give you advise, it wont be the same as the one you give to yourself. Talking to yourself has two sides the good side or the bad side but you are the one who controls what you want to do its in your conscious of your respond. You just have to listen to yourself and choose wisely on what you wanna do.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out a part of it.
Being careful on not twisting the truth or leaving a part of it out means don't mix a truth with a lie because it will lead to a big twist in your life because you will become dishonest. And leaving a bit of truth out isn't okay either why? Because, if you need to tell the truth you will need to tell the whole truth and not leave anything out of what your saying. Be careful on what you say because at the end of the day it will affect you and the person. It will affect you by lying and not saying everything the way it happened and being truthful and it will affect the other person because if they find out the REAL truth they'll know you left a part out or twisted the truth.
"What motivates me in art is the ugly and beautiful nature of the truth. It has to be truthful and honest, even if its ugly and grotesque."
6. Don't indulge in little white lies.
Indulging in white lies can be harmful even if you think it's not. Lying shouldn't give a person pleasure on how it feels. Lying is the most dishonest thing you can ever do because you're lying to someone to not hurt their feelings. And by indulging it you give yourself the upper hand thinking it's okay to do when it's not. You shouldn't indulge white lies even though they aren't serious lies they still can hurt someone when they find the truth whether you tell the truth or someone else tells it for you.
"When we tell little white lies, we become progressively color-blind. It is better to remain silent than to mislead."
7. Watch out for silent lies.
Silent lies is still a lie no matter the circumstances a lie won't change it's meaning if its a lie. But specifically do not know what a silent lie truly means. I think a silent lie is the same as a regular lie but instead of telling someone a lie your telling yourself a lie in way to make yourself feel better about something. You can't always lie to people but you can also lie to yourself and it can be deceiving yourself. I also assume silent lie is when a person tries to make their self-esteem boost up or their confidence goes up.
"Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable."
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
When you catch yourself lying, you need to pause what you said and say the truth instead. If you catch yourself instead of counting you can say "oh that's a lie, the truth is ..." Instead of counting the lie that you just said. Be straight forward and don't say lies because eventually you'll have to say the truth. And stopping yourself while saying a lie the honest thing you can do because your not committing to the lie.9. Talk to yourself.
Talking to yourself is always good. Because no one can understand you like you understand yourself, you may not get valuable life lessons from yourself but you can know how to be truthful to yourself. Because at the end of the day your the one who keeps having your back when no one is there and you could vent to yourself when you have something on your mind. If you told a lie and you feel bad you can always talk to yourself and try to prevent those lies slipping out of your mouth and let truth come out. It can be risky answering back to yourself but you get a better perspective on what you want to talk about. You may have friends and family members who wanna talk to you and give you advise, it wont be the same as the one you give to yourself. Talking to yourself has two sides the good side or the bad side but you are the one who controls what you want to do its in your conscious of your respond. You just have to listen to yourself and choose wisely on what you wanna do.
"Talking to yourself is okay. Answering back is risky."
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.
Treating yourself when telling the truth is always good because you stayed committed on telling the truth which is good and you deserve to reward yourself .
Reflection: They can benefit me for being truthful and more honest towards others instead of lying and hiding the truthful from someone because eventually the truth will come out and I personally would rather tell the truth and be honest because you want the other person to do the same to you. I'm applying to stay committed on telling the truth and talking to yourself it made a big difference because when I talk to myself I understand what's right from wrong and wrong from right and I tend to look and every different outcome if I choose the wrong or right. And committing on telling the truth has also helped because I think to myself since I am committed and promise not to say a lie it helps me a better person cause I'm not going around making up lies I rather be neutral and not say any lie and just tell truth from now on. I can incorporate these other tips in my life planning goals by not lying when I had to read my goals.
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