Ten Tips by Barbra A. Lewis

Ten Tips to being more truthful

By; Barbra A. Lewis

1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.

Everyone should always tel the truth because it's a way of showing people that your honest, even if it's not a good truth but it's better than a lie. Committing yourself to tell the truth, is good because your seeking for good habits in life and showing people that lying won't help you in life. You may say lie then cover it with more lies which makes you forget what the first lie was, but being truthful and honest is better because the person will know that your intentions are good not bad because you lied.

"Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making some smile."

2. Tell someone about your commitment.

Telling someone your commitment is the best thing you can possibly do, why? Because your telling others that you will commit to the promise you have made because you wanna show them you won't break it which is good. Cause once you commit to something like for example telling the truth they'll see your progress on how honest your being and up front and truthful your are to them and others and it's always good involve others in your commitment.

"When you're surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible."

3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.

Before giving someone any dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason think about it before you did because the way you say or do it can show people how rude you are because of the way you answer. And answering dishonest is the exact same thing as being untruthful to a person and the more you do it the progressively it gets worse and worse and you don't know what to say anymore.

"Dishonesty of any kind will create a blemish."

4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.

Using irony, sarcasm, or exaggeration at the wrong time is bad. Because if you're trying to be truthful to a person and you use sarcasm what makes you think they'll believe you if you meant it as a "joke" no.  You also have to be careful when you say it and how your saying it. A lot of people may confuse your sarcasm for you talking the way you do.

"Avoid sarcasm. Don't insist on the last word."

5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out a part of it.

Being careful on not twisting the truth or leaving a part of it out means don't mix a truth with a lie because it will lead to a big twist in your life because you will become dishonest. And leaving a bit of truth out isn't okay either why? Because, if you need to tell the truth you will need to tell the whole truth and not leave anything out of what your saying. Be careful on what you say because at the end of the day it will affect you and the person. It will affect you by lying and not saying everything the way it happened and being truthful and it will affect the other person because if they find out the REAL truth they'll know you left a part out or twisted the truth.

"What motivates me in art is the ugly and beautiful nature of the truth. It has to be truthful and honest, even if its ugly and grotesque."

6. Don't indulge in little white lies.

Indulging in white lies can be harmful even if you think it's not. Lying shouldn't give a person pleasure on how it feels. Lying is the most dishonest thing you can ever do because you're lying to someone to not hurt their feelings. And by indulging it you give yourself the upper hand thinking it's okay to do when it's not. You shouldn't indulge white lies even though they aren't serious lies they still can hurt someone when they find the truth whether you tell the truth or someone else tells it for you.

"When we tell little white lies, we become progressively color-blind. It is better to remain silent than to mislead."

7. Watch out for silent lies.

Silent lies is still a lie no matter the circumstances a lie won't change it's meaning if its a lie. But specifically do not know what a silent lie truly means. I think a silent lie is the same as a regular lie but instead of telling someone a lie your telling yourself a lie in way to make yourself feel better about something. You can't always lie to people but you can also lie to yourself and it can be deceiving yourself. I also assume silent lie is when a person tries to make their self-esteem boost up or their confidence goes up.

"Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable."

8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.

When you catch yourself lying, you need to pause what you said and say the truth instead. If you catch yourself instead of counting you can say "oh that's a lie, the truth is ..." Instead of counting the lie that you just said. Be straight forward and don't say lies because eventually you'll have to say the truth. And stopping yourself while saying a lie the honest thing you can do because your not committing to the lie.

"The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception."

9. Talk to yourself.

Talking to yourself is always good. Because no one can understand you like you understand yourself, you may not get valuable life lessons from yourself but you can know how to be truthful to yourself. Because at the end of the day your the one who keeps having your back when no one is there and you could vent to yourself when you have something on your mind. If you told a lie and you feel bad you can always talk to yourself and try to prevent those lies slipping out of your mouth and let truth come out. It can be risky answering back to yourself but you get a better perspective on what you want to talk about. You may have friends and family members who wanna talk to you and give you advise, it wont be the same as the one you give to yourself. Talking to yourself has two sides the good side or the bad side but you are the one who controls what you want to do its in your conscious of your respond. You just have to listen to yourself and choose wisely on what you wanna do.

"Talking to yourself is okay. Answering back is risky."

10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.

Treating yourself when telling the truth is always good because you stayed committed on telling the truth which is good and you deserve to reward yourself .

Reflection: They can benefit me for being truthful and more honest towards others instead of lying and hiding the truthful from someone because eventually the truth will come out and I personally would rather tell the truth and be honest because you want the other person to do the same to you. I'm applying to stay committed on telling the truth and talking to yourself it made a big difference because when I talk to myself I understand what's right from wrong and wrong from right and I tend to look and every different outcome if I choose the wrong or right. And committing on telling the truth has also helped because I think to myself since I am committed and promise not to say a lie it helps me a better person cause I'm not going around making up lies I rather be neutral and not say any lie and just tell truth from now on. I can incorporate these other tips in my life planning goals by not lying when I had to read my goals. 

Internet 101

The Internet works in a way where nothing gets messed up, but it doesn't usually work that way. Since there are hackers who go into websites and make a "malfunction" on it where the user of the website can get a virus or get the information stolen which in this case we don't know what they'll do. But there are some websites that secured and will protect you from hackers or viruses every time you search something online check the URL to see if it has https which in that case the website your in is protected if it doesn't i means it isn't, but when it not protected it warns you before using it that it's not a protect website and someone or something can hack or get into your computer. You just have to make sure what your using. Another thing hackers might do is spam your emails by impersonating a bank and telling something went wrong, and that they'll need you to right down your email and password but little do you know that you gave the hackers your information now they can go to your bank account and get your money. Another thing hackers can do is shut down the website your in. Hackers also give you a bunch of pop ups to give you a virus. When you get a virus or hacked the person or virus can delete everything you have in your computer. There are different computers that control the .org, .net, .com, etc. not just one big computer because that computer will over drawn by all the requests everyone suggest it made it more simple. Every time you use a website like tumblr or Instagram there's cookies in those cookies and with those cookies it save your information so when you try to log the receivers already have your information and it logs you instantly. Internet travels of the speed in life. The information is made by bits which its like turn on and off, it's also called binary code. Text,pictures,videos,etc are made by bits. There are different ways internet can travel by electricity, light, and radio. Every computer has an IP address and is made of numbers just like a phone number. There a more information about the internet and how every part works and they are interesting if you'd like to know more check out :https://www.khanacademy.org/computing/computer-science/internet-intro/internet-works-intro

 

The 10 Keys to Personal Power

The 10 Keys to Personal Power

Brian Tracy

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Key 1: Clarity

"Have vision. Determine what you want to be, do or have in life.  Have a sense of direction and know where you’re going.  If you do not have clear specific goals in life, you are doomed forever to work for others who do."

Key 2: Competence

"If you commit to excellence, opportunities will always come your way. The harder you work, the better you get."

Key 3: Concentration

"Make the best use of your time. Ask yourself “Is this the best use of my time?” before you start anything."

Key 4: Common Sense

• Train your mind
• think things through
• listen to your intuition
• learn from setbacks

Key 5: Creativity

"Except the fact that every human being is a genius.  The hallmark of creativity is asking questions.  The people who are most creative ask the most questions."

Key 6: Consideration

"The quality of your relationships with other people will determine your success in life."

"Develop the people skills you need to become a better communicator.  Take courses in listening, speaking, etc."

"If you were to learn one new word a day, within 5 years, you’ll be the best educated person in history."

Key 7: Consistency

"Dependable, steady predictable work is always superior to fast spurts of work."

Be consistent in your relationships, your family, friends, your boss, your work.  Be the person that people can depend upon.  That if you say you’ll do something you do it.."

Key 8: Commitment

"No success is possible without commitment. The ability to commit yourself whole heartily is the basis of achieving all success."

"Become totally aborted in your work. Be totally committed."


Key 9: Courage

"The fear of failure is the single greatest reason for failure in life."

Key 10: Confidence

"You only get confidence by doing things over and over again."
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Reflection: The 10 keys can benefit you by motivating you to have a better self image and you can better yourself you may have not have confidence or courage but trust me deep down you do and it will build up the more it builds up you will never me afraid of any obstacles in your way. You'll get through it with just having these keys in your life. I will incorporate these keys in my life planning plans because I know they will be a good use in my life and it will help get through what I planned for myself and it will help conquer some obstacles that will in my way to try to stop me but with these keys it will help me to not be afraid of what big obstacle will come towards my way and to face it because you may not win the "battle" but you will win the "war".

The Seven Habits

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People 

Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Habit 1: Be Proactive

"Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all other habits and that's why it comes first. it says, "I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny,not just a passenger."

Habit 2: Being with the end in mind

"Control your own destiny or someone else will." (Jack Welch)

                                              Habit 3: Put First Things First

                                           "Organize ad execute around priorities."

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
"Think win-win or no deal."





Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
"Diagnose before you prescribe."



Habit 6: Synergize 
"The whole is greater than the sum op its parts (1+1=3)







Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
"Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional."







Reflection: What I think overall about The Seven Habits, I believe the seven habits can help people become a better person and think of life and how they act differently. 

Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

In my opinion by this technique is never judge or complain about things you don't wanna do. Do them without any complain it will help you in life. For example when i was asked to help LAPD I didn't complain because it can help me in the future if i need help or its an emergency i can call them up cause they know of how good of a person i am.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
"The big secret in dealing with people"
In my opinion being honest is a good thing because you are being straight forward on what you have say,even if it's hard to be honest you will have try. Also having appreciation towards people is also better because they want to know how you really feel about and if they are appreciated by you. This technique will help you in a lot in life, being rude and not being honest or appreciating other people won't get you no where in life.
Technique 3: Arouse in the other person eager want.
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot,walks a lonely way."
In my opinion on arousing in the person is to be interested in what he/she wants. By making this technique happen you'll have to look and find what they like what they don't.
Final Reflection: I believe these techniques can help a person become more aware of they let there actions or response to someone else. It can teach you to handle someone without being rude just being straight forward to them.

School Break Day

During my Christmas/ Semester break i spent time with family mostly friends. With my family I stayed home taking care my nieces and nephews also watching Christmas movies and with my friends I went out with them stayed up at all night playing card games or out eating. I met my friends brother and mother, his brother was very nice also his mom.The movies i watched were The Nightmare Before Christmas, Home Alone, The Grinch, and Home Alone 2. I really didn't watch many movies i watched more shows like; Supernatural,Dexter,Baby Daddy,and Flashpoint. I didn't play or watched any sports during my vacation.My CTR experiences was helping LAPD in East Los Angeles give out presents to little kids on December 20th, it was so crowded that even channels 4 and 34 came to see the event. The only book I read was Tales of the City by Armistead Maupin I fell in love with the book because of my sister since she had to read it for her college essay.During vacation I didn't do homework be there wasn't homework that I knew of.That's all I did for my Semester break.